Well, I am not certain about the dynamics in their relationship and I don't want to generalise because everyone has a unique situation which needs to be tackled individually. However, for the sake of getting my message out - and it's the same one I've been trying to get out for the longest time - I have to say this.
The best foreplay for sex is establishing an open and spontaneous line of communication. Couples don't talk enough about sex with each other. Yes, they talk about the kids, bills, work, etc but somehow, they just side-step sex. And yet they wonder why their sex lives are in a not-so-good-place.
On the surface, one can easily get the idea that the fault is with their partners but if things have come to such a roadblock, then I'd go out on a limb to say that the woman is at fault too. If a man has slipped into his me-only routine, the question to ask is did you have a part to play in inadvertently 'nurturing' that?
Sometimes you have to be selfish too and make your demands in bed known too. Take what you want and then give back. Men will be men so no us spending all your energy trying to change them. The best thing we can do is to 'ímpose' our desires and lusts on them.
But before that, you ought to get down to really talking more openly about your sexual desires, fantasies and lusts. Get that out in the open and soon you will be able to tell the difference in not only your sex lives but inevitably, other facets of your relationship. It's just the kind of boost your sex life and relationship need to push it on for the long haul.
Missus Singapore out!
Interesting how I do hear about this from alot of my female friends, but it's the total opposite for myself. Me and my girlfriend do talk about sex, and about stuff I want, and stuff she wants. The problem is she is what I call a 100% receiver, who just enjoys to receive and would not want to give.
ReplyDeleteHey! You are perhaps to some extent, lucky since your partner is so into it and knows what she wants. But I do feel that you guys need to delve deeper into your conversations on mutual satisfaction.
ReplyDeleteThe mark of a gentleman can be summarized in every sense of these three words, "She comes first."
ReplyDeleteThat said, the very few things in life more beautiful than my partner/s' cheeks flushed, the sheen of perspiration on her body, her body arched, and her eyes rolled back in ecstasy... Is the post coital dreamy smile of satiation on her lips, her eyes glazed and her breath slowing down till she dozes off in the afterglow.