MATURE AUDIENCES ONLY

When it comes to sex, everyone wants to have something to say about it. Not too much different from politics, is it? Both are subject to a myriad of interpretations which an intelligent person can digest and thereafter choose to agree, disagree, ignore or come up with their own opinion.

The essential thing to note is that there is always going to be an opinion out there that will not sit well with someone. It is a fact of life that cannot be avoided or fought against. I've always loved a good conversation that centres on constructive discussion and debate, which culminates in total agreement or an agreement to disagree.

On my blog, I don't try to shove things down people's throats. It's merely an interpretation of things the way I see it, a highlight of my personal experiences and my own experienced-based opinions. Experience is a draw for those who subscribe to it but bearing in mind that everyone has different experiences, my ideals or advice in some cases, may not apply one bit. Holy grail for sex it is definitely not and you should not take it from anyone either. It makes good sense to deliberate before you decide whether or not to take one's advice or ask a particular person for it.

At this point, you may be wondering what's with Missus Singapore? No, I didn't hit my head on the bed-post whilst attempting another acrobatic sex stunt, if that's what you're thinking. This post was triggered by several emails pointing out certain stories in the media recently. All sex related.

One was the David Letterman office affairs, which I already addressed in a previous email. Another was a story in a local Singapore newspaper about several girls who had washed cars whilst topless (had nipple conceal stickers over though).  People were judging - shock, horror, disdain and even scorn were thrown at these perpe'tit'ters - another compelling reason why Singapore is not going to be a sophisticated and mature society anytime soon. My take is this - if you really don't want to highlight the issue any further, don't comment on it. Let it die a natural death and let us all move on. The mileage it has got underline the hypocracy that is deeply imbedded in our society.

The other story I would like to highlight is that of a mini-celebrity singer Maia Lee, who runs this column. She shared her experiences of where she had had sex in Singapore - staircase landings, parks, etc. No big deal really and if she wants to share that, what is the fuss?

I've had it in some places which defies imagination but that is another story. The point I am making is that she is free, and I stress FREE, to say what she likes, do what she likes because that is her life. If she steps beyond the boundaries of the law then the consequences are hers to bear alone (and with her co-conspirator, of course). But seriously, haven't we all done something like that. Many complainers do so because they simply don't dare to do such things, so they sit down on their moral high-horse and abhor such acts and declarations.

One email to me suggested I stand up and show her how its really done. The experience from me, a mature woman, as compared to a 'wannabe-young-pussy' is no competition, the email says. Yes, while I thank you for your accolades, and admit I can probably teach her a thing or three, I won't. Instead of criticism or condemnation, I like to channel my energy to my own beliefs - not worrying or commenting about others and having lots of my own sex. I respect her, or any woman who is comfortable with their unique sexuality. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Besides, life is rich when there is variety, just like sex. Take that all away and what you have is a vanilla culture with no nuts or chocolate toppings - boring.

If you want a 'wannabe-young-pussy's' advice, then ask her. If you want a mature woman's one, ask me. You read, you decide and you choose. Why condemn or criticize? Sex should be fun - a sport if you like, to enhance relationships, release stresses of life and stay healthy in body and mind. No being, human or otherwise, should be hurt in the process or taken advantage of. On hindsight, it's probably less offensive than politics is today. So why oh why, do we choose to drag it down the gutter. The world of sex - like the contents of my blog - is for Mature Audiences Only, and I'm not just referring to over-18-year-olds!

Missus Singapore out!